Are you ready to begin your healing journey—but feel completely overwhelmed about where to even begin?
You’re not alone, friend. So many women carry the heavy weight of grief after abortion, and they silently wonder if they’ll ever feel whole again. If you’ve felt stuck or like healing is impossible, today I want to take that weight off your shoulders and give you a step-by-step plan to begin moving forward.
No more wandering through your pain wondering if God can still use you. No more avoiding the healing you know you need but don’t feel strong enough to seek out. It’s time to let go of the shame and start walking toward freedom with Jesus—step by step.
If you’re ready for redemption and a clear path forward, this is for you.
My Story: 10 Years of Silence
It took me almost 10 years to finally begin my healing after abortion.
Why did it take so long? Honestly, I think it was a combination of a few key things:
1. I Spent Time in Denial
At first, I convinced myself I was okay. There was even a sense of relief. I told myself I did the “best thing” and that it was something I didn’t have to think about ever again. I tried to stuff down my emotions and just move on.
2. I Let Shame Separate Me From God
I avoided church. I avoided anything that would bring me face-to-face with God. Even when I did start attending again, I avoided small groups and real community. I didn’t want anyone to see how broken I was inside.
3. I Had No Accountability
I ordered books, signed up for devotionals… but never followed through. I didn’t have someone to walk with me, pray with me, or challenge me when I got stuck.
But here’s the truth: God designed us for community.
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” — Galatians 6:2
4. I Didn’t Know Where to Start
There were so many resources out there—but I didn’t know which ones were trustworthy or where to even look. And truthfully, I was too afraid to ask.
The Healing Plan You’ve Been Looking For
Looking back, I wish someone had just laid it out for me. So today, I’m doing that for you. If you’re grieving after abortion, here’s a step-by-step plan to begin healing and walking in freedom.
Step 1: Commit to Partnering with God
This is the most important step.
Yes, therapy helped me manage my anger. But true healing? That came from letting God into the deepest places of my heart. We can try to heal apart from Him, but we’ll always hit a wall.
When you invite God into your pain, you invite the Healer Himself.
Step 2: Recognize That You’re Grieving
This one is hard—because it doesn’t always feel like grief. After all, this was a choice, right?
But abortion is a form of child loss. And child loss is one of the most painful kinds of grief. On top of that, we carry guilt—making it almost impossible to move forward. Many women stay stuck in limbo, never truly grieving and never truly healing.
You are grieving. And your grief matters to God.
Step 3: Find Accountability
You were never meant to do this alone. Whether it’s a therapist, support group, or Christian coach, you need someone who can walk alongside you.
Coaching might be the missing piece for you—someone who knows where you’ve been and can walk with you step by step. If you’re looking for personalized support and biblical mentorship, I’d love to connect with you. Let’s make sure you don’t stay stuck.
Sometimes a blend of resources is best—just make sure you have a plan and a person to walk with you.
Step 4: Recognize That This Is a Journey
No two healing journeys are the same. Don’t compare yours to someone else’s.
Some women cry every day. Others go numb. Some feel immediate regret. Others don’t feel anything for years. Your experience is not “wrong.” It’s yours.
Healing takes time. Give yourself the grace to take it one step at a time.
Sometimes, the hardest part is getting started. But when you commit to walking with God through your healing, something beautiful begins to happen.
You start to feel again.
You start to believe that redemption is possible.
And slowly, you begin to hope again.
I’m praying for you, friend. Healing is possible—and it’s right around the corner.
If you’re looking for someone to walk this journey with you, I’d love to invite you to explore 1:1 Abortion Recovery Coaching. I’ll help you get unstuck, process your grief, and move toward the healing God has for you.
You don’t have to walk this alone anymore.
💛 You are deeply loved.
💛 You are not disqualified.
💛 And your healing is just beginning.
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