Do you ever feel like the world around you is just too loud? Like you crave a moment of quiet but somehow it never comes? If regular quiet time with God feels hard for you, trust me — you’re not alone.
Even after years of having quiet time as part of my life, I still struggle sometimes to make it happen. It’s normal, and you’re not failing if it doesn’t come naturally!
I often get asked what my own quiet time routine looks like, especially by my clients who are navigating post-abortion healing. So today, I want to share some tips and encouragement to help you create a quiet time routine that fits your life and helps you grow closer to God as you heal.
My Quiet Time Journey (The Messy Beginning)
My personal quiet time journey started back in 2013.
Before that, I’d hear girls in my church small group talking about their “QT” — their quiet time goals — but I never really made it a priority. It sounded nice, but I didn’t know where to start, so I didn’t.
That changed in 2013 when I found myself in counseling, working through a lot of anger. My counselor encouraged me to start journaling. That simple act of writing down my thoughts turned into my way of praying.
At first, it was clumsy and awkward. I wasn’t sure if I was “doing it right.” But I paired journaling with reading a few verses of Scripture — even though I didn’t really know what I was doing.
It was messy. Honestly, it still is sometimes! But over the years, I’ve learned that my messy, inconsistent, imperfect quiet time is better than no quiet time at all. When I make space to sit with God — even in the chaos — I can hear Him so much more clearly.
Why Quiet Time Matters in Your Healing Journey
If you’re on a post-abortion healing journey, quiet time can feel intimidating. Maybe guilt creeps in and whispers that you don’t deserve to sit with God. Maybe you’re afraid you won’t know what to say or where to start.
But the beautiful thing is — quiet time isn’t about doing it perfectly. It’s simply about showing up and making room for God to meet you there. Whether you’re brand new to this or you’re trying to rebuild a routine after a long break, I want to walk you through some simple steps to help you get started (or restarted!).
Tip 1: Pick a Time That Works for You
There’s no one-size-fits-all time for quiet time. Some women love early mornings with coffee and a journal, others find their quiet space at night after the kids are in bed.
The best time is the time that works for YOU — when you can have some peace and quiet and your heart is open. It doesn’t have to be the same every day, but consistency helps.
Tip 2: Choose Your Place
Having a designated spot can make a big difference. Maybe it’s a cozy chair in your living room, a corner of your bedroom, or even your car if that’s the only quiet place you have.
Wherever you choose, make it somewhere comfortable and free from as many distractions as possible.
Tip 3: Gather Your Supplies
You don’t need a Pinterest-perfect setup or fancy journals and pens (unless that’s your thing!). All you really need is:
- Your Bible (or a Bible app)
- A notebook or journal
- A pen
If you want to add things like a devotional, prayer cards, or a candle to set the atmosphere — go for it! But don’t feel like you have to have all the extras to make it “count.”
Tip 4: Remember — Talking to God is Just That: Talking
Quiet time isn’t about having the perfect words. God isn’t looking for fancy prayers or flawless journaling. He just wants to hear your heart.
That means you can come to Him exactly as you are — happy, sad, angry, confused — and lay it all at His feet. Praise Him, cry to Him, vent your frustrations. It’s all part of the relationship.
Tip 5: Give Yourself Grace
Some days it’s going to feel easy. Some days it’ll feel like work. And some days you’ll miss it entirely. That’s okay. Don’t quit just because it’s hard. And don’t quit just because you skipped a day (or even a week).
This is a relationship, not a performance. You get to come back anytime.
Tip 6: There Is No One “Right Way”
There’s no one “right” way to do quiet time — only the way that works for you. Start small, maybe 10-15 minutes a day, and build from there if you want to. Let it change and evolve as your life changes.
The most important thing? Just show up. God will meet you there — even in the messy, awkward, imperfect moments.
You are worthy of time with Him. You are loved. And you are not alone.
Want more support in your post-abortion healing journey?
Join me for my Abortion Recovery Breakthrough Workshop, where we dive deeper into healing with God, building a routine that fits your life, and learning how to quiet the noise so you can hear His voice again.
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