Think Abortion Is the Only Way Out? 3 Things You Need to Know

I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant.

No one was with me. I had no plan, and didn’t believe I had a support system.
Just fear, panic, and a positive pregnancy test.

My first thought?
I have to make this go away.
My second?
How do I hide this before anyone finds out?

If you’re reading this because you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and feel like abortion is the only way out—I see you. I remember exactly how that feels.

You may feel like you’ve messed up too badly. That this will ruin your life. That no one will understand. That you’ll lose everything.

But before you make a decision that you can’t undo, I want to share 3 truths I wish I had known. Because they might just change everything.

1. Abortion Doesn’t Erase the Pain

It might feel like ending the pregnancy will end the fear and shame too. But abortion doesn’t erase those feelings—it usually amplifies them.

Many women feel a wave of relief after the procedure. But eventually—sometimes weeks, sometimes years—regret creeps in.

That’s what happened to me.
And I’ve heard the same story from countless women I’ve worked with.

The regret intensifies when you later hold a planned child in your arms… and realize what you lost.
Abortion may seem like a quick fix to your current pain, but it often creates more pain—deeper pain, lasting pain.

You can choose to redeem the fear and panic you’re feeling right now by choosing life and knowing your child is alive. There’s pain in pregnancy, yes—but there is also purpose.

2. You Are Not Alone—And This Doesn’t Define You

Unplanned pregnancies happen all the time—even in the church.
Especially in the church.

God is not surprised by your situation. And He’s not disgusted by you.

“Children are a gift from the Lord…” —Psalm 127:3

Your baby is not a punishment.
Your mistake doesn’t erase your worth.
And your pregnancy doesn’t define you.

Are you scared about how people will react? Your family? Your church? Your job?

Yes—some people may judge. I won’t sugarcoat that. But the One whose opinion matters most? He’s not looking at you with shame. He’s looking at you with compassion.

God doesn’t define you by your shame.
He defines you as chosen, redeemed, and loved.

You are not alone.

3. God Offers Healing and Redemption—Even Now

I’ve had women tell me, “I found your podcast because I knew I’d need healing after my abortion.”

Friend, I grieve that.
Not out of judgment. But because I know how that pain feels.

But here’s the beautiful thing:
God doesn’t require you to go through abortion to redeem your story. He offers healing and redemption before you make that choice.

You don’t have to walk through trauma to feel worthy of a testimony.

Instead of choosing abortion and then seeking healing, you can invite God into your fear now.
Let Him walk with you through the unknown. He will provide.

There are people who will support you.
Pregnancy centers. Counselors. Churches. Families willing to adopt.
You are not out of options.