If you’ve found yourself whispering the words, “I regret my abortion,” you are not alone.
Maybe it wasn’t immediate.
Maybe you carried on with life, keeping the memory tucked away in a locked corner of your heart.
But one day, without warning, regret crashes in.
It might happen while you’re rocking your baby to sleep.
Or during a quiet moment beside your husband.
Or maybe in church, during worship, when the lyrics suddenly hit different.
Suddenly, all the things you should feel grateful for now feel heavy—because they’re tangled with guilt.
You ask yourself, Would I even have these blessings if I hadn’t chosen abortion?
And that thought stings. It’s confusing. Because you’re thankful. But you’re also ashamed.
Friend, I’ve been there.
And I want to tell you something that changed everything for me:
God never meant for you to live under the weight of regret. He invites you to live under the covering of redemption.
What Does Redemption Really Look Like?
Redemption isn’t forgetting what happened. It’s allowing God to repurpose your pain.
It’s not about pretending the abortion didn’t matter.
It’s about realizing you still matter to God, even after what you’ve done.
Redemption is the story of the Gospel: that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8). And the doorway into that redemption—especially when the regret feels suffocating—is surrender.
The First Step: Surrendering to God
Surrender sounds like a spiritual buzzword, but it’s actually a deeply personal, practical invitation. It’s not just a feeling—it’s an action.
Here’s what surrender looked like for me—and what it can look like for you:
1. Schedule a Prayer Appointment with God
Yes, actually put it on your calendar.
We make appointments for what matters: the dentist, job interviews, even coffee with friends.
So why not schedule time to meet with the One who holds your healing?
Set aside at least 30 minutes.
Choose a quiet space.
Bring a journal, a Bible, and an open heart.
This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present.
2. Surrender Your Pain in Prayer
Use this time to lay it all out. Every memory. Every “what if.” Every silent scream.
Pray. Cry. Journal. Worship. Sit in silence.
There’s no right or wrong way to come before God—He already knows your heart. You don’t have to filter your feelings.
Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
He’s not waiting for you to get it all together—He’s just waiting for you to come.
3. Listen for His Response
This part is hard.
Because we often expect an immediate answer or emotional breakthrough. But sometimes, God speaks through stillness.
After surrendering your pain, take a few moments to listen.
Maybe He speaks through a verse.
Maybe a podcast speaks directly to your heart.
Maybe a conversation later that day confirms something.
It may not happen in the moment, but don’t give up. God will respond in His timing and in His way. He always speaks to those who seek Him (Jeremiah 29:13).
When Surrender Doesn’t “Feel” Like It’s Working…
You might be thinking, “I’ve done that, and I still feel stuck.”
That’s okay.
Healing isn’t linear. And surrender is not a one-time thing—it’s a rhythm.
Just like a relationship, it requires consistency, vulnerability, and trust.
Some days, it’ll feel powerful. Other days, it’ll feel like silence. But both are part of the process.
Don’t measure your progress by feelings. Measure it by faithfulness.
You Don’t Have to Walk This Alone
Friend, if you’re carrying regret, God wants to lift that burden from you—not with shame, but with grace.
If you’re ready to walk toward healing with someone who understands, I’d love to support you through 1:1 abortion recovery coaching. You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Together, we’ll walk step by step into the freedom Jesus already paid for.
Learn more here: brittanypoppe.com/coaching
You are not too far gone.
You are not disqualified.
You are deeply loved.
And healing is possible.
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