Finding out you’re pregnant when you weren’t planning to be can feel like your entire world just stopped. Fear, shock, confusion, and a thousand “what now?” questions flood your mind. If that’s where you are today, friend, I want you to know: I see you. I’ve been where you are. And I created this post just for you—because you deserve truth, not pressure or fear.
I know how it feels to be terrified and unsure about what to do next. You might be listening to advice from people who don’t truly understand your heart or looking online for answers that only leave you more confused. That’s why I want to share three things I wish someone had told me when I was in your shoes. My prayer is that these truths help you make a decision you can live with—not just today, but for the rest of your life.
1. Your Baby Is Already a Life—From the Very Beginning
No matter what anyone tells you, science is clear: Life begins at conception.
The moment the sperm meets the egg, a brand-new human life is formed—complete with its own DNA, separate from yours. Within hours, this tiny life begins growing, dividing, and preparing for implantation in the womb. By the end of the first week, the baby is made up of hundreds of cells. By week three, the heart is already beginning to beat.
You may have heard phrases like “it’s just a clump of cells” or “it’s not a baby yet,” but those aren’t scientific truths. They’re talking points designed to comfort—but they leave out the incredible, undeniable facts of human development. Even organizations and medical sources that aren’t pro-life affirm these facts. You deserve to know the truth so you can make a fully informed decision—not one based on fear or misinformation.
2. Abortion Trauma Is Real—And It’s Often Silenced
Many women who choose abortion are told that it’s quick, easy, and will let them “move on.” But what they aren’t told is how deeply it can affect them later.
The emotional aftermath of abortion is often brushed under the rug. Yet, the truth is this: Women who’ve had abortions are 81% more likely to struggle with mental health issues. The risk of suicide increases by 600%. Physical complications, especially from the abortion pill, are also more common than you might think—ranging from hemorrhaging to life-threatening infections. The FDA has even removed safety protocols that once protected women, making it harder to get accurate information.
Many women suffer in silence, afraid of judgment from both sides—ignored by the pro-choice movement and misunderstood by those in the church. But you don’t have to carry that pain alone. There is support, healing, and truth waiting for you.
3. Abortion Has Spiritual Consequences—But God’s Grace Is Greater
This is the most important thing I’ll share with you today: Abortion is not just a physical decision; it’s a spiritual one.
If you know in your heart that abortion is wrong, please listen to that still, small voice. God placed that instinct in you for a reason. He created women with a powerful, nurturing instinct—one that often shows up before we even confirm the pregnancy. That was true for me, and I believe it may be true for you too.
Yes, God absolutely forgives abortion. If you’ve already had one, you are not beyond His love, grace, or healing. Jesus is waiting with open arms. But choosing to go through with it knowing it’s wrong can deeply wound your heart and soul—and affect your walk with God in ways that take time and intention to heal.
So before you make a decision, I urge you to consider the path of life. There are resources available. There are people who will walk this road with you. You are not alone, and you don’t have to carry this burden by yourself.
What Are Your Other Options?
If you feel like parenting isn’t possible, please know that adoption is a beautiful and brave choice. There are also Pregnancy Resource Centers that will provide free support—financial, emotional, medical, and more. One incredible organization, Let Them Live, offers assistance to women just like you who need real help to choose life.
You Are Stronger Than You Know
If you’ve read this far, I want you to hear me say this with love: You are stronger than you think. You can make a decision that aligns with truth and protects your future—not just your present fears.
If you need someone to talk to, I’m here. If you need resources, I’ll help connect you. If you’re scared, I will pray with you. You don’t have to do this alone.
And if you’ve already had an abortion, know that healing is possible. I’ve walked that road too, and I’ve seen God restore what I thought was broken forever.
Friend, there is hope. There is help. And there is life—for you and your baby.
You are not alone. 💕
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