If I had a nickel for every time a woman told me, “My pastor never talks about abortion. I don’t think I’ve ever heard the word abortion in church,” I’d never have to work another day in my life.
Okay, maybe that’s a slight exaggeration — but only a slight one.
I hear this all the time from women who are carrying the silent weight of a past abortion. They sit in church week after week, hearing sermons about sin, grace, and forgiveness — but abortion? Silence.
And that silence is deafening.
When the church is silent about abortion, women and men who’ve experienced it are left feeling isolated, ashamed, and unsure if God’s grace really covers them too. Many even start to wonder if their salvation is at risk.
If you’ve ever felt that way, you are not alone. And today, we’re going to set the record straight.
My Story of Wrestling with Salvation
I was raised Baptist, but in 2017, I decided to get baptized as a believer at the Nazarene church I was attending at the time.
Now, I know some of you might have been raised in different denominations — maybe you were baptized as an infant or had a different process. That’s totally okay. But for me, believer’s baptism was a big deal because I had recently come back to my faith and wanted to make that public commitment.
Before the baptism, I had to attend a “Faith Night” at the church. I remember being so nervous — like pit in my stomach nervous. During our small group time, I wanted to confess my past abortion, but the words just wouldn’t come out.
The day of my baptism came, and I was so excited. But almost immediately afterward, I felt this dark cloud hanging over me.
I couldn’t shake the feeling that maybe I wasn’t really forgiven. That maybe God had accepted everyone else in that baptism — but not me.
I started obsessing over my salvation.
- I would try to “earn it back” by being a good person.
- I would beg God to forgive me over and over.
- News stories would make me think about the end times and it would terrify me — I was convinced I’d be left behind.
- If I didn’t hear from my mom for an extended period of time, I’d panic, wondering if the rapture had happened and I’d missed it.
The pastors at that church never talked about abortion. Ever. Like many women who’ve had abortions, I started to believe that maybe abortion was just too bad to even mention.
If the church wouldn’t talk about it, maybe that meant it was unforgivable. That belief kept me trapped in shame for years.
Why I’m Passionate About Sharing the Truth
This is why I’m so passionate about talking about abortion and post-abortion healing.
When women (and men) hear testimonies they can relate to, they begin to realize they aren’t alone — and that’s when true healing begins.
But if the church stays silent, people stay trapped. They continue carrying the shame that Jesus already died to take away.
There needs to be a shift in the church.
Let’s Set the Record Straight
If you’ve had an abortion and your church has never addressed it — or if it’s only been mentioned as a political issue rather than a heart issue — let me tell you right now:
You are not going to hell just because you had an abortion.
Jesus didn’t come for some sins — He came for all sin.
And yes, abortion is a sin. Let’s be clear about that. It’s the ending of a human life created by God. But that doesn’t make it unforgivable by God. In fact, scripture gives us multiple examples of people who committed serious sins — including murder — and were still loved and redeemed by God.
Here are three powerful examples:
1. Moses
Moses killed an Egyptian out of anger (Exodus 2:12). That’s murder. But did God cast Moses aside? No. God forgave him, redeemed him, and used him to lead the Israelites out of slavery.
2. David
David arranged to have Uriah killed to cover up his sexual sin with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11). That’s murder, too. But God forgave David and even chose him to be part of the lineage of Jesus.
3. Paul
Paul persecuted and killed Christians before his conversion (Acts 9). And yet, God forgave him and used him to spread the gospel across the world.
If God forgave Moses, David, and Paul — He can forgive you too. Does that excuse sin, and justify our sinful actions? No, it does not. God calls us to flee from that life. He also calls us to come to Him and be fully cleansed. We are cleansed by the blood of Jesus – He paid it all!
You Are Not Exempt from the Promise of the Gospel
Friend, if you’ve repented and surrendered your life to Jesus, you do not need to fear that your past abortion is going to send you to hell.
You’ve been redeemed.
You’ve been forgiven.
You are not excluded from God’s grace.
If anyone has ever told you differently — or if the silence of the church has made you feel otherwise — I am so sorry. That is not God’s heart toward you.
God’s heart for you is one of love, redemption, and restoration.
If you’ve repented and are living for Him, your past has been wiped clean. Jesus already paid for it. You don’t need to keep punishing yourself.
It’s Time for the Church to Wake Up
I’m praying that more pastors and churches will start addressing abortion — not just as a sin to be avoided, but as a wound that God wants to heal.
Women and men need to hear that what they’ve done isn’t too big for God’s grace. They need to know that they can be forgiven, restored, and set free.
And maybe — just maybe — God is calling you to be the voice of truth and healing in your church.
Ready to Take the Next Step in Healing?
If this message stirred something in your heart and you’re ready to take the next step toward healing, I’d love to walk with you.
➡️ Join my Abortion Recovery Breakthrough Coaching program where I help women like you heal with God’s grace and truth.
You are not too far gone. You are not beyond redemption. You are deeply loved.
Father, I lift up every woman reading this right now. I pray that You soften her heart to receive the truth of Your forgiveness and grace. Help her to know that she is not beyond redemption. Heal the wounds of her heart and give her courage to take the next step toward freedom. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
You are forgiven. You are loved. You are redeemed. ❤️
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