How do we know if our children lost to abortion are in heaven?
What does the Bible say about children and salvation?
In today’s post, I’m going to share Biblical evidence that shows that your children are with Jesus so that you can feel comforted and equipped to understand who your child is and where they are now.
One of the hardest things for some of us is wondering where our children lost to abortion are now. If we look at the Bible, we know that when we die, our souls go to one of two places: heaven, or hell. If we are believers and have given our lives to Christ, then we get to spend eternity in heaven.
But what happens to the souls of those who die before they are born? More specifically, what happens to our children lost to abortion? Where do they go?
There is a clear answer here that we are going to talk about today, but if you go searching for these answers you may find conflicting information. Some people you may ask may say that your children will come back to you someday. Some may say that you have condemned your child because of your choice (so not true, by the way). We live in a society that isn’t necessarily respectful of Christian values and isn’t educated on this subject, so we are bound to get answers that are just completely false. I also think some people mean well, but give incorrect information. Like, “Oh, they’re an angel in heaven.” Is that theologically sound, though? Do humans really become angels when they die?
I want to tell you a little story before we dive into the Biblical evidence that shows exactly where your children lost to abortion are right now. After my abortion, I had been so conditioned to think of my child as “a clump of cells” and even though I knew that wasn’t true, I really tried to disassociate because it was just too difficult for me to face at the time. I didn’t want to go there. However, I had two really profound moments where I felt God’s comfort and reassurance about where exactly my child is now.
The first one, you’ve maybe heard me tell before if you’ve been a listener of the podcast. Before my abortion, I was proudly pro-life. I had been raised that way. I had this pro-life t-shirt, it had a baby’s hand and a mother’s hand intertwined and had the verse Jeremiah 1:5 on it. After I ended up going through with my choice for abortion, I felt like an absolute fraud. I knew I couldn’t ever wear that shirt again. In my mind, I had to be pro-choice because I had made that choice. I would say “I’m pro-life for myself but think it should be available for others if they want it.” That statement makes me cringe about myself now but that’s where I was at the time. I don’t mean that in the offense if that’s where you’re at now, I am just sharing to show how I have evolved and come full circle since then.
Anyway, I knew I couldn’t wear that shirt anymore, so I took it off the hanger, balled it up, and threw it into the back of my closet. Years later, my mom sold the house I had grown up in and so I had to go clean out my room. I cleaned out the back of my closet and came across that shirt. I held it up and felt that guilt creep in. For whatever reason, as I held it up, I looked at the brand name on the neck tag. I saw the name “Jedidiah,” and instantly had goosebumps. I remember feeling the hair on the back of my neck stand up and I just felt God so clearly in that moment, but I also had a ton of fear because I wasn’t walking with God at this time. Jedidiah was a name I had loved ever since I was super young, I would joke all of the time that if I had a firstborn son, I would name him Jedidiah. So when I saw that name, it was crazy to me that it was on this very shirt. I don’t remember what happened with the shirt, I know that I didn’t end up keeping it and I sure wish I would have, but that moment has definitely stayed with me all of these years.
Sometime later, I went through the Forgiven & Set Free bible study and we were studying the story of David and Bathsheba in 2 Samuel. At one point, Bathsheba gives birth to one of their sons and they name him Solomon, but it also says that the lord called him “Jedidiah.” I was curious about that and looked at the footnote in my Bible, which was the sole footnote on this page and it said that Jedidiah means “loved by the lord.” That came full circle for me as I remembered finding my t-shirt and seeing that name on the t-shirt. I know with my whole heart that God was telling me that he loved my child and that my child was with him.
So, you might be reading this and thinking, “Ok, Brittany, feelings aren’t facts. You might feel like your child is in heaven, but how do you know that? How do we know that’s where our children lost to abortion have gone?”
Once we quiet the noise of the world, we can recognize that the Bible is actually quite clear about this. I don’t say that to come off condescending to those of you who don’t know that – please understand that I am just like you: a person who wants to learn what God has to say. I don’t have the Bible memorized, I’m not a pastor, I haven’t gone to seminary, so I definitely am not the authority that God’s word is. For this blog post, I’ve done research to find the pieces in God’s word that prove who are children are and where they are.
So, we are going to look at this truth so we can leave our time today with 100% certainty that our children are loved by God and are in eternity with Him, and we will see them again.
The first question we are going to answer, is “Was my unborn child actually a human being?”
We can answer this Biblically and scientifically. Funny how that works, right? Biblically speaking, we can look at Jeremiah 1:5, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.” God knew us before we were even created and He had a plan for us even before then. If that’s not enough, we can also look at Psalm 139:13-16, “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” We know that God knit us together in our mother’s womb, establishing our humanity in the womb.
Scientifically, 96% of biologists globally believe that life begins at fertilization. The American College of Pediatricians also agrees that human life begins at fertilization. So yes, we are human from the moment we are created. Your child was a human.
So, we’ve established humanity. But, do our children’s souls come back to us later? I have heard some people say this, especially on TikTok. I do think these people mean well. Some people hear this and have hope that they will meet their child again someday here on earth. They take comfort in affirming their “not right now” decision for abortion because they can meet that child again. However, in the Christian faith, we do not believe this. The Bible is clear that we do not come back to earth once we have left it in death.
The best scripture for this is Hebrews 9:27, “Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment.” The piece in that verse I want you to focus on is “Just as people are destined to die once.” We do not die multiple times. We do not come back to earth in a new body to die again. We die once, we go to heaven if we are living for Christ.
Another scripture we can look to for this is James 4:14, “yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.” Life is a vapor. We are only here for a little while. We don’t come back after we leave in death.
In telling you this, it’s not to crush your emotions if you’ve been banking on getting to meet your child again. Guess what? You STILL are going to see your child again! It just will not be in the form of a future child you have. You aren’t going to give birth to the same soul again. But, if we believe God’s word is living, active, and true, then we know that we will meet our children again. Evidence for this is, in 2 Samuel 12:23, “But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” David had just lost his son with Bathsheba and is telling the people that his child cannot be brought back, but that he can go to his child in eternity.
But, how do we know that for sure? Did our choice condemn our children?
We do know that our children go to heaven and I’m going to share the Biblical evidence for you in just a moment. I want you for a moment to read with an open heart what I am about to share with you: God tells us that once our lives are concluded here on earth, we go to one of two places: heaven or hell. Not purgatory, not limbo, and not back to earth through reincarnation. There are two destinations, which are heaven and hell.
In regards to our children, they were sinless. Hell is destined for those of us who are sinful and unrepentant, rejecting God and His son, Jesus. Our children were completely innocent and sinless at the time of their death. God is just and compassionate and is not going to send the innocent to an eternity separate from Him. We also can see evidence of this in Matthew 18:10, “See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.” While small children have that potential for sinning, we know that children in their innocence are not separated from God. We don’t know at what age that occurs of course, and that would vary from person to person and developmental-wise, but we can conclude that our children lost to abortion are not of sin.
“But what if I was an unbeliever at the time of my abortion? Does that mean my child was condemned because I did not believe?” No, each unique human being has their own individual salvation and they are responsible for that. You as an unbeliever do not condemn your innocent children. Isaiah 43:25 says “I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins. Salvation is a choice that every person in the world must make.” Our children will make this choice on their own as they can, and our children lost to abortion were lost in their innocence and therefore are with the Father in heaven.
A majority of the information I have just shared with you I found from a book called, “I’ll Hold You In Heaven” by Jack Hayford. This book is a really great resource for anyone listening that has lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, or early infant death. There are a ton of resources out there for childloss, but not a ton out there that address abortion. This one does, and Jack Hayford addresses this so eloquently throughout this book.
I pray you take comfort in knowing that your child is running in paradise right now, and they are looking forward to the day that they get to meet you.
XO, Brittany
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